I can relate to how your W feels. On occasion I have had similar feeling (although my feelings only last 2-3months). For me it was some type of your depression.
Does your W see a T or has she tried AD? I know its hard to suggest these things when you are trying to put things back together but those things may help.
It seems obvious but I think she needs to get in touch with herself more before any chance of a big O
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13