There is hope.
First he has an Anger Management problem that needs addressing.
There are several programs out there and perhaps it's time he seeks out a counselor to help him with that.
Blaming you for his flipping out is childish and a form of arrested development/emotional lack of maturity.
I will suggest a book for you and him.
The title is: Angry Men and the Women that Love Them.

I hope that helps you.


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Me-51, WAS-52
Kids 2
M-26yrs, H.left 2009, 2 more Bomb drops, Reconnection spring 2013
Change is inevitable, personal growth is a choice.
Love is a action and choice you make, every day.