Take it slow. That's all. it's not a matter of could or should have a pleasant friendly conversation. It is if you can handle it with no expectations. You also have to ask yourself if it is something that makes you feel better or worse.
Thanks for your words Gabby and for stopping by my thread!
At this stage, I feel BOTH. I'm not sure how much you read of my sitch, but my w said said all of these things about hanging out and not wanting to lose me from her life.. and then she just stopped talking to me and did the exact opposite for almost 7 months now.
So the better is that she does still care, the worse is that it isn't consistent right now.. or what I always said.. it's not enough to want her to even work on some kind of relationship.
I've been learning to let go of that expectation for now. At some point I will act on it.. but for now I am resting. I do not feel it is the right time to say to w. "Well since you feel I'm worth investing time into a relationship or a friendship, I do not really want you in my life".
That still feels wrong to me. It seems very black or white. With my w going through a 12 step program.. I know she is in a world of grey.
Originally Posted By: gabbysmom23
Go slow, do what feels right. It all comes down to what feels right to you.
Going slow is exactly my gameplan. I'm still working out what feels right.. but I do know what feels wrong.
It's progress.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
