.....so my options are a Meryl Streep movies or Groundhog Day, eh?
MZ - I can't believe you actually found and read those threads. BTW - I'd say it was an EA, not a PA. Yes, Sandi2 and Harrier gave me some good advice (along with many others). And, yes, part of the problem was a power imbalance in our R. The stress of family and work made that worse. You got all that?????? wow.
Under different circumstances I don't have any trouble being strong and taking a leadership role - we just don't live in those circumstances. I'm a INFJ (have to take that test for work fairly often - too much about me.). And W is dynamite amist chaos - really amazing (sounds like you, I'd bet). I don't think my personality is likely to change much (too old). So I figure I need to learn as much as I can and/or change my situation - so I can be successful doing what I need to do. Time away to think and recharge. Remembering that things are probably only 50% as bad as they seem. Slowing down my thoughts. Being a little less willing to compromise and sacrifice. Sure, it's ironic that my W often does things that make this difficult (castrate, you said? funny, I've often thought that I could actually FELL the testosterone levels dropping). But somehow I think that's the point. We I don't have to worry about being affected by everything that happens with W - then I won't have to worry. The stronger I get the better our M is.
Hence my interest in leadership type qualities....
So, you have an interesting perspective. What have you done to equalize the power imbalance in your R?
