I think I need to start a new thread. If interested in more of the back story check out "Upside Down" in this same forum.
I'm lucky that in I quickly found DB and began implementing it quickly. My DB coach was impressed with me and told me to keep up the good work. I realize it has been a very short time, less than two weeks on the calendar, but a decade in my mind.
That being said the differences from discussing divorce and emotions running to high, to conversations this week that are all but normal, including a couple of hugs, has me completely scratching my head and scared to death of the next bomb.
It has been right on the tip of my tongue to ask if we can seek counseling and begin steps to reconcile but I have held it back. I got some great advice from my DB coach saying, "If I'm afraid of the answer then don't ask" That one has been my mantra last night and today.
But when? How to know? I've tested the waters of just having some short but important conversations regarding what i'm learning about myself and those have been met positively with "thank you for tell me that." And I think those have resulted (as well as my GAL efforts, and acting as if) in the better times we're having. Seeking patience and advice.
