I was once a WAW. I went to my first H and told him that I was unhappy in our marriage. He changed for about 3 weeks, then he went right back to being himself. He was never home for me or our 3 kids. So, a year later I told him that I wanted a separation. He was very upset. He begged, pleaded and cried for me not to leave. I told him that I came to you a year ago and told you how I felt and you did nothing. So now I need the space. Well, I moved out. But he called me everyday to fight with me. What he did not realize was the more he pursued me, he was pushing me farther away. Then oneday I got very tired of it and I filed for the D. We are now best friends. He makes a great friend than a husband.
And now, I am the LBW. I started to the same thing with my second H when he walked out. Then one day, I was thinking about my first marriage and how my H pursued me. I was doing the exact same thing. When I realized that, I went dark. I was dark about 6 wks, then my husband started to text me and then calling me. We had lunch and even spent a couple of Saturdays ago together. Last night I invited him over for Thanksgiving and he said he would love to come. I have made some needed changes and he can see that. So going dark, really works.
