W is angrier after my 180's - time + consistency

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Last evening I went to my Divorce Care meeting and for the first 15 minutes it was just me and the pastor/facilitator. I was grateful that I had a chance to talk with him one on one since he usually rushes things along and doesn't linger (I guess D takes its toll on everyone!).

After DC I went home to tuck in the boys for the night and told my wife, see you around. Then I left for my temporary digs at a friends house. While I was still in the driveway I sent a text to my W letting her know that I'd be by in the morning to take S9 to the school bus stop.

Here is the exchange:

M: I'll be by in the morning to take S9 to the bus stop.

W: U moved out?
W: Do they know?

M: WE told them yesterday. I talked to S13 b4 I left.

W: I didn't realize it was set. I'm very very sorry and I hope eventually you won't hate me. I'm so sorry.

waited 20 minutes to respond......

M: I don't hate you. Don't you understand that?

W: I've hurt you terribly and I hate myself for doing that. Thank you for giving me the space I need.

I did not reply to her final text.

What the heck is running through the mind of the WAW?

I go dark or very dim starting today!