Well....I had a phone meeting with DB coach a couple of weeks ago (got some great support and ideas to cope). Started my depression meds last week.....I don't think they've kicked in yet. I have learned that struggling through everything that has been going on, and trying to do it by myself (with no support) has been draining me and has caused my depression symptoms. I have only told one person and we haven't discussed it again although she did ask how "we" were doing on our girl's trip last weekend.
I didn't hire the PI over the weekend that I was gone. I decided to just go with my friends and have a blast and that is what we did. No mention of any of this. We went wine tasting, stayed in a lovely home in Los Olivos, cooked, laughted, drank champagne, played silly board games, and even watched the big Alabama v. LSU game. Stopped in Santa Barbara on the way home for a lovely lunch at my favorite spot (Boat House - Hendry's Beach). Most awesome weekend! I did arrive home, H had the house cleaned up which was very nice. He was also rather amorous.
I told the DB coach about H's other infidelities (at least I think he had at least two others earlier in our marriage). I also told her that he hadn't told me that he was married before until after I had already accepted his marriage proposal. She seemed quite struck by that. He had been married very young at the age of 19 and then divorced about a year later. She wondered why it was that he didn't think he could tell me about his prior marriage until after I had already accepted his proposal. Something to ponder..........
The holiday season is soon upon us. I wish you all well!
Me - 49 H - 56 S - 23 D - 20 Married 25 years H moved out 10/11/13 H moved back in 10/13/13 H moved out again 8/1/14
