Well, I retained a lawyer today and in a few months I will be a divorced man. Lawyer said she's never had a case where the two parties get along as well as Voldemort and I. Nice to hear...now ditch her for me!
When you've done everything you can to keep your marriage together but the other person does not - you've earned your way out.
I admire your ongoing terrific parenting - your girls have the best - that's for sure. You can be very proud.
WHen my marriage fell apart, my doctor told me my life was not over - I had just reached a fork in the road - and a different path lay ahead than i had imagined - but it could still be wonderful and - it is! ANd so will yours be.
Thanks everyone! The cost should be about $1200 my lawyer said. I'm hoping that included filing fees etc. I'm going to ask Voldemort to pay half as she has no expense in this at all. Lawyer told me that Voldy could choose when and where she wanted to be served the papers. She's coming by tonight to give me the marriage certificate as the court needs it. Anyway, the process is underway. I also met with that cute little social worker this afternoon, a nicer part of my day! I liked her, we met for half and hour before the client decided to bust up the party. Darn those clients! Lol. Anyway, I'm considering calling her and asking her out for dinner but I gotta think this through. It's really no big deal, I guess. I never see the woman, although we have one mutual client, and I do have all these great romantic Tagalog phrases that melt women's hearts and should not lie dormant! I suggested my agency do an assessment on the client and when it's done she can come back and go over it with me. I'm so bad!!!!So we'll see. I liked her, she's smart, funny, attractive and seemed to like me. Hmmm, decisions decisions.
You go girl, don't wait for me! My other concern is that I'm not sure of this woman's age, I'm guessing forty but...I could be wrong. My co-worker says I should go for it anyway. I don't know. I don't need another Filipina calling me Lolo ...(MM used to call me that teasingly because "you think so much you're like an old man" Lolo means grandfather.) but she would be fun to get to know and it's funny that she's crossed my path right now. It's not like these opportunities come up very often in my workplace, believe me. Hey, what can she say besides "thanks but no thanks". Actually, now I have to convince our assessment guy to do this assessment so that I can advance my love life. It's a tough go being in the helping profession!
Be careful. This Filipino social worker sounds like a replacement for MM whom I'm pretty sure you're not over yet. (you do continue to mention her a lot). Don't create work related opportunities just so you can test the waters - ask her out if you want to be sure. But be prepared for more of the same. (Hopefully not). 40 is not that much younger than you. MM was much younger, no? I think the "Lolo" comments were a dig about the age difference and this is what whe was meaning. But who knows - clearly she did not see you the way you saw her.
As for divorce expense - best money I ever spent. Ex left me. He did not pay a dime towards the divorce and told the kids - "it was your Mom who wanted the divorce"- sheesh - they knew better.
Do you already have a sep agreement? That was the costlier more difficult part for us.
I hope this sets you free. I mean your lack of joy and no sense of humor has had me worried. Lol. Staying in limbo isn't good but yet it seemed like neither you or Voldermort wanted to move in any real direction. I dare say this is progress.
Hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
