"Yes, I know this. But, I also know that it is important for me to work on those things in me that drove her away (selfishness, controlling behaviors, emotional detachment, etc.)."
Of course, but never forget that your W has faults too. There's a tendency for the LBS to idolize the WAS as being perfect.
"It pains me to think that they may believe I have somehow instigated this whole ordeal. That somehow I am the one who wants out of the marriage or that I have no interest in trying to make it work. I respect these people immensely and feel like I owe them some kind of an explanation."
Mindreading. You don't need to read into what they or others think. No matter how close you were, right now they don't want to choose sides. In either case, they prefer not to say anything it's their choice.
Besides, do you really want your W to come back because her parents told her to? No.
I know right now you feel like you need to talk to them. Hell, you probably feel the need to talk to anyone who will listen. We've all been through it. Calm yourself down and start drawing on your own inner strength and not the validation of others. You can do it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
