So anyway, knowing that this A started as and EA and has progressed to a PA, does it make it that much harder for it to end since both the emotion and sex is there or does it even matter?
I don't know that it matters.
I think it all has to do with how you view sex. It can run the gamut from a physical act to a spiritual one. And the truth is, you don't really know how each of them views this, nor can you. So, everything you can do not to put any energy into thinking about it the better...for you.
I know it's hard, and I know you mind goes there when you least expect it.
I used to use a behavior (or thought) modification technique of wearing a nice thick rubberband on my wrist. If I caught myself doing or thinking something I wanted to change, I'd snap that puppy so hard it would welt.
