I never thought I would be here. WAW

[sandi2]

I don't play around, Ajay. I'm going to tell you like it is, but it's up to you to put it into action.

I like the comment about "off to dinner" but see the venom described previously about my female friends. quote]

That's b/c she knows she can throw a fit and whip you back into being her dog with his neck in a chain. All she has to do is jerk back on that leash and it stops you graveyard dead! You will never have the guts to even look at anyone, can't you see that? She doesn't want you, but she doesn't want you to have anyone else. So let her throw a b!tching fit! I bet you don't die from it. Unless you choose to.

Ajay, I'm going to talk to you as if you were my grown son. You have got to start acting like a man with this girl or you will never have peace.....much less happiness! As long as she can control you with her anger and/or her low self-esteem issues, or her depression.....she'll continue to do so. The sad thing for her is that she'll not try to help herself. As long as she has you buckled down under her orders and scared out of your wits over what she might do.....she'll not likely change for the better. If she sees that she doesn't have you in her back pocket, and when she looks around at the wreck she's made of her life.....then she may try to get help with her problems.

[quote]It scares me that she will see it as a threat she doesn't have the self confidence to address, in her depressed state.

You don't get it. She needs to see it as a threat! By that, I mean she chose to leave you and she needs to see what she gave up. She needs to realize she could very easily lose you. She needs to know that she can't have it both ways.....living as a single, but keeping you tied down, too.

She is trying to destroy everything good in her life, some symptoms of MLC I think.

Is there anything else you want to throw into the mix?

I am just making excuses here I think for my lack of backbone.

Oh, but you'll be much more attractive when you've inserted your new one!