W is angrier after my 180's - time + consistency

[2thepoint]

Again, remember it's a two way street. Your W wasn't exactly walking on water. On top of all that, there is never a good "reason" to have an A. No matter how bad things get, you work it out and not call in a substitute.

Yes, I know this. But, I also know that it is important for me to work on those things in me that drove her away (selfishness, controlling behaviors, emotional detachment, etc.). I feel that I need to create a more attractive me in order to get on with my life and perhaps one day..... well you know.

So I have this nagging need to reach out to my W's parents. We are/were very close and I'm troubled by the fact that while her sister and her sisters husband have reached out to me, I've not heard a peep from her parents.

It pains me to think that they may believe I have somehow instigated this whole ordeal. That somehow I am the one who wants out of the marriage or that I have no interest in trying to make it work. I respect these people immensely and feel like I owe them some kind of an explanation.

I understand that there is danger in them there waters. That I have to be careful not to instigate taking sides. I know that blood is thicker than water. And, I know that this could be construed as pursuit.

So what to do?