Time for an Introduction...and Thanks

[MrBond]

"He sees the kids so little as it is, when he wants to do things for them I don't want to be the downer.

You can't help this. You need to stop accommodating him. I mean c'mon, taking your S out of school without telling you just to play a video game? That's just childish. You're the adult. Make the right decision.

"I just want to be included. That's pretty much what this is about though right, not wanting me included anymore..."

And that's why you give in to everything he asks. This is why GAL is so important. You need to stop being the rescuer and start being the responsible one. You need to be the one to pull the brakes and say that enough is enough. He made the decision to leave. Not you.

YOu're not the bad guy for saying 'no'. He's bribing your kids to lessen his guilt which is why he doesn't invite you. This is his way of saying "hey look what a cool dad I am." Well in the long run your kids will love and respect you for your stand more than anything money can buy.

Remember that and stand strong.

When you start denying your H to do what he wants, he will throw a temper tantrum like you wouldn't believe. He'll call you unfair and how you're trying to destroy his relationship with the kids. But don't you buy it. Not for one second.

He will become your third child. Do you really need that? You're better than that and deserve better. Like a child, once his temper tantrum subsides, he'll start respecting what you say again. That's where things will start to get better.