My 2 cents do not slip into "Nice Guy" territory doing things and expecting rewards for doing so. It is a slippery slope when you are trying to put others first. And do not neglect yourself as it can build resentment. Rather include others and yourself as equals acknowledging their needs as well as your own.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
