new to this..

[learning2listen]

Still feeling pretty good, but I do have some questions, that I am sure are pretty normal...any advice would be hugely appreciated....

First, I recognize that I need to improve myself, but where in this do our spouses see that they too need to improve..

FOr me this falls into a "doormat" feeling.. I do not nor have I ever condoned my h's actions. I see that there is hope for a better R down the road but at some point when do we discuss every action creates a reaction?

Example... my h is still scheduling the lunches, it seems he may look forward to the hour we spend having small talk.. I look forward to them in a way, however I have been walking away from them with more questions..does that make sense?

the first lunch he did most of the talking, it went well, then nothing the following week, then lunch again, went well but this time we did discuss possibly doing more lunches and maybe family time.. now today lunch is scheduled again, no idea how that will go.

I want to re-connect, but I find myself afraid.. I dont know who or what he is looking for? or if he is looking to me for anything.. how does that door open?

These are all just questions...