hahahaha... I don't often get accused of speaking in platitudes especially since I'm not one of the people who agrees with all of the tenets of DB. Sometimes, people just have an opinion.
Someone after my own heart. Good to know.
Originally Posted By: lostinscared
I did offer alternatives that were beyond "don't think about it." With that said, being a long-time vet, what would you suggest as an alternative?
Well, that's the first time I've been accused of being a vet here. I'm far from it. now I feel like a jerk.
Ever hear of the white bear experiment.
personally, I think the only thing that really helps is time. You can't move that forward faster.
Obviously, he can try to remove any triggers. If he had "saved" any evidence...deleted it or put it some place you can't get to. Reading it over and over again is deadly.
Stay away from certain things like love songs, cheating songs, love movies, cheating movies, etc.
An idle mind is harmful here that's why I personally don't like meditation. I'd just end up thinking about my situation.
Some people put rubber bands on their arms to snapped themselves when their mind goes there. I'm not into self abuse myself.
For me, those early days are a blur.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
