What do I do next? Part 2

[Accuray]

Thanks Telemark, I understand how to DB pretty well and why it works, but boy, it's hard to do it! I definitely wish I was better at heeding my own advice but those darn emotions get in the way!

LuvHurts, if you're splitting your time with your kids 50/50, then you could also decide to limit HER access to them. I don't think you want to get into playing those games. For now I would ignore her remark -- you've got enough to deal with.

Remember to ignore most of what she says. She's made you "the bad guy" in her mind, and is desperately trying to think of herself as righteous. Therefore, when her kids cast her in a bad light, she's instantly going to assume that came from you, it's a reflection of her own guilt.

I would literally forget she said it, but just set a boundary if she threatens you again. How did your IC appointment go? What did the counselor suggest about confronting your wife?

I hear you on the expense, one call is $150. Here's how I looked at it -- first, it's much cheaper than a lawyer or a divorce, it's kind of like buying insurance to avoid a much larger loss later. Second, if I broke my arm, would I worry about the money, or just go to the doctor? When the bomb dropped on me, I was in MORE pain than when I broke my shoulder, so I viewed professional help as a medical necessity. Obviously you need to make your own decisions, and debt is never a good thing, but for most people this is the most difficult emotional trial you will ever face, so reach for every lifeline you can!

--Accuray