Thanks for the input guys. 25 I have learned in the past 5 months about how poorly I have behaved in some instances. I have owned up to it and working on them. Some of the questions you posed to me I am talking about in IC. So yes I have work to do and will continue. I will be as cooperative after the D as she allows me. I know it ain't the end of the world even though it feels like it right now.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Had my divorce care group last night. The lady that reconciled started by saying that she had done the program 2xs. She open it up by saying ' I hated his breath, how he chewed his food, his smell I just hated him". She said her heart was cold as ice. She said that for 4 years they lived in the same house but separated and said it was awful. She filed and he filed but neither could go through with it. She said that during those 4 years they both went to bars and did awfull things? But she found God and soon after her H started attending church a dn chnged and they get along now and their M has been strong for a year. I guy about mid 30s told his story. He said that last Thursday in October W sat him down and told him he would be served and the he was terminated from work. She was his employer also. Gave him 2 weeks pay. Pretty cruel. He does not look well. I told my story and told everyone that I wanted to save my M. The females looked shocked. On of the females who will now be a facilitator said that she has been M 3 xs' That if her 1st H had waited she would have reconciled. That is took her almost 2 years but he remarried and that was the end of that. They told me if that is what I wanted to not date and wait and be patient and work on me. Many statements that they made were so DB. The females also told me to leave so she gets the hint that it is over. The woman that presented said if her H had made attempts to leave that she probably would have chased him down. Something that Sandi2 would said. Not a bad group.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Asked my L to request that I get 50/50 custody of my D even if she does not want to be with me. He emailed me today and he said he would and that he spoke to W's new L last week who did not even have the files yet?
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Rick, Interesting input from your divorce care group. I would love to have someone come into our group and talk about their experience in reconciling.
Have you been doing anything with the people from the group outside of the meetings. I have actually made some good friends through the group, in fact, two of the women from one of my groups are coming to an ACOA meeting with me tomorrow night.
How is your day going today?
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
Hey Gunney good hearing from you. yes it was a good experience. She lived with him separated for 4 years and she said it was hell. I have not done anything with any of the members. The groups have been small and the people seem to be in different stages. Today I don't feel too bad. I read that you were taking melatonim so Monday I got a bottle. Did not sleep very well the night before, but last night I slept for about 6hrs. Woke at 4am can;t sleep past 4am? But the depressed feeling is less today. I read that Melatonin is used in the treatment of seasonal affective disorder so I decided to try it. Have agreat one buddy
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
Hey rick, Glad the melatonin seemed to help. Last night I took Valerian and melatonin, went to bed at 10, woke up at 1, took an ambien, and woke back up at 5. Not too bad, I am trying to alternate the herbs/ambien every few nights so I don't get too used to either one. This is a problem I never thought I would have, insomnia, and it su88s!
Have a good one!
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
My W I's not like Other woman. She does not talk much or nagg.. It noticed that when I start convo she responds. So I did that this morning while having breakfast. Befor leaving for work she tells me that tonight she has a meeting? That is new but I did not ask that's a 180. She than tells me that it is a horse meeting. I said have fun. She than asks me what time will I be home I tell at the usual time. I asked if she wanted me to cook dinner. She said no. I think she is anxious about court next week. Hard stuff.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
