The first chapter I suppose

[gunny]

Hello Autumn,
Just catching up on your sitch,welcome aboard.
As lost said, you are way ahead of the ballgame, much more in tune with the work that you will have to do to bring bring your r to where you want it.

Keep posting around like you are, you will get more posts this way. There is a great deal of experience on this board, and people will share their advice freely.

In additon to reading the dr books, I would suggest that you also try to read the 5 Love languages, and The Solo Partner, which has a great chapter on pursuers and distancers. Good luck, keep up the good work!
Gunny