Alcoholic H wants D part 2.....

[mishka422]

Take heart IMT. My son was 13 when his dad left. He started with being protective of me, then he moved to being angry toward me and indirectly blaming my actions (even though he knew his dad moved in with OW and had met on her several occasions), and then to acceptance of the situation. It took a lot of patience on my side and time.

All you can do is be very loving toward him, give him as much attention as possible without coddling him, and avoid any discussion of what your H is doing. If your son wants to know what is going on with his dad, he will have to ask him directly.

At 14 he is becoming world-wise, it's sad but it is what it is.
You can't hide things from him or you risk losing his trust, but you also don't need to lay everything bare for him.

Like we've said before, just reiterating that you both love him and want the very best for him can calm the waters.

Does your S14 have a C?