That makes sense. The OM is a tattooed Army vet who supposedly was once a bounty hunter. Has the guns, the Harley, loves any sports team from NY (as does my W) and is probably fueling her MLC-I-don't-want-to-get-old desires.
And that is all somewhat ironic. I like motorcycles - even bought one earlier this year- and I've owned guns since I was 9. I sold them when I married W because I did not want them in the house with her autistic son there. I enjoy a good football or baseball game, but I'm not a rabid fan. I can remodel a house top to bottom, wire and plumb it and then furnish it to the nine's. I started to teach myself how to cook (my specialty is chicken whatisthisstuff...ask DG...) And I never missed the opportunity to tell her how talented, smart, funny and beautiful I thought she was.
I recently read a quote somewhere that some of the greatest failures occur when people are so close to success. Tel, fyi--if these traits of yours^^^ are true, I know you write well and are intelligent/articulate....SO
If you weigh less than 400lbs and have a sense of humor, you ARE perfection...
I have accepted the impending divorce and the fact that she is gone from my life. I have accepted my part in the problems we had. I have been working on my demons and my "nice guy" traits and slaying them one by one. I am starting to feel comfortable in my own skin.
It's a shame that my W chose dishonesty and infidelity over hard work and self-inspection. She will never know the person I am becoming.
Indeed it is a shame...
I'm betting your w's loss is going to be someone else's gain, if you let it.
Don't lose those good traits to bitterness, which I suspect you'll manage well.
And you will tell us in a year or two, or three...that you are truly happier in your new life than you could or would have been
if she had not left.
Sounds weird, but after all the crazy stuff she went through
(SOME of which I think was due to her son's autism and for that, I feel bad for all concerned)
she would not have been easy on you in the long run, without a lot of work on herself that she was unwilling or unable to do.
You are a good man, Telemark...stay that way.
I couldn't have said it better myself. Big Texas hug to my favorite Yankee...lc4
