Alcoholic H wants D part 2.....

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Daily venting session...
I know its only Wed. but this week seems to have gotten a little easier for me..not sure if its because he has been around a lot this week or if im just adapting... He was at the house last night for a few minutes to drop of the trailer for the camping trip I have planned for the boys. I dont take that for anything then what it is, he was not overly helpfull (didnt fill propain or plug it in so frig could charge, ive never done it but I know it needs to be done) just told me what to do and left. I smiled and said thanks for bringing it up.
We had a sitch with S14 again last night...He came out of his room after H left and had tears in his eyes, said my grades are crap. (i already knew) You can see his grades on line and he had looked them up. NOT PRETTY...hes failing 4 classes. we sat on th couch and talked and got into what is bothering him. He brought up his D and said he wasnt going to be happy until we were together again. I talked about how somethings are out of his control and he has to be able to recognize that and except things he cannot change. told him his D and I both love him very much and want him to be happy and do well...backing up...when H left he really didnt say goodby to me, we were leaving at the same time to go meet friends for pizza and S14 said "by dad" so H said good by..my son then said "by honey, I love you" as if H should have said that to me and then said "by honey i love you to" as if I should say that to H....it was so sad. so in our conversation he said if you want me to be happy you should talk to dad and tell him we want to move back with him. Then he said he thought D was upset because I didnt invite him to go camping and thats why he didnt say goodby to me, and that I should ask him to come...I dont even know what to say when he says things like that. in my head im thinking really???? Im the bad guy ????? but I guess we do what we do to protect our kids.
It is so hard to hear him say that and with him being 14 it makes it harder to hide things from him. I told him that what is going on between his D and I has nothing to do with him and that we loved him blah blah blah....he is heart broken and I cant stand to see him like that.
H is not concerned at all...says he will be fine. and of course im left here worrying about what this is doing to my S14....