Just watch that you don't smother H with too affection 'too' soon. Be a friend. Be supportive. Yes, listen but hold back on the 'I love you's' or the 'you're my only one' for now. Not good at this point. Can actually chase H away for a bit if he's not ready for it. Best to let H set the pace on this type of thing. (No doubt, can't hurt to make yourself interesting though. See 'dbmod' above there. Good info there.)
Ya, there's no magic pill but you can certainy expand your chances of making this work by listening to H. However, if H still crosses a line that's not cool then let him know in a good, but firm way that that's not on and move on.
Yes, things seem to be progressing in a good direction, awesome. However, be prudent here. I've done alot of reading (maybe too much...) but Michelle actually says this best in that, 'Lasting change take time.'
In short, you're probably not out of the woods yet and might not be for a while yet. May even be a couple years before you two can feel comfortable again...but it's worth the wait!
I haven't posted much in the last seven years. I've been a lurker. Just lookin' to put back all the good help I've gotten...
