Quick journal : I came home from work, D9 has a haircut, apparently done by W's divorcee friend grrrrrrrrrr.... I read D9 stories and put her to bed. D9 always says "hug" as you lay her down - for some reason I started getting teary and had to recompose myself before coming out of her bedroom.
D6 had some shattering news (well to a 6 year old) - the little girl across the street (her best friend) is moving to San Francisco - she was so tearful all night and we did our best to comfort her before she went to bed.
W and I talked for a while - general chit-chat, she told me that the divorcee was planning a girls night out - I feigned interest but to be honest every time I hear her name I just want to shut it all out.
She then said D6 has abandonment issues (One school friend and another neighbour have moved recently). I wanted to scream - what's she going to be like when I'm forced to relinquish my role as a full-time parent! I said nothing except that D6 will work it all out and she'll make new friends.
just curious...why'd you minimize the suffering of your d? You ended up validating the rationalizations your w makes to herself...interesting...
maybe a need to "fix" is something you can stop doing...you know, "fix that urge to fix"?...
W watching her shows - I have no interest in them (well I would try to show interest - but what's the point, she didn't ask me to join her and they aren't the sort of things I would normally watch). She has to invite you to watch TV in your home? Come on....hey, if the shows are on, why not stay & try to enjoy them? If you hate them, fine leave.
But if not, why not spend some time in the same room without conflict?
Build on that...baby steps...
Not sure if W was trying to provoke a reaction out of me - if she was she didn't get one.
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M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
