My brother sent me an email saying H contacted him because he's been trying to get in contact with me. I had blocked him from my FB after that garbage went down last weekend so he couldn't message me.
So I unblocked him, and asked him what I could help him with. He first started out saying he has heard from people that I have been out with men and a woman and he didn't want to believe it was true but my pic on Friday confirmed it.
It was a lot of banter back and fourth. He said he left the D papers at my house for me and he'll pick them up after I've signed them.
This passive-agressive attitude is really sh*tty, and I hate that I allow him to suck me back in every time.
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
I'll trade you for your recipe for chickenwhatsthisstuff
Deal.
Originally Posted By: ~¤DG¤~
Update: He first started out saying he has heard from people that I have been out with men and a woman and he didn't want to believe it was true but my pic on Friday confirmed it.
I love this..."I don't want you, but I don't want anyone else to have you, either."
Next time you're in a bar, have a picture taken of you with every other person in the bar - men, women, young, old, - and post them on FB. Tell how you are really finding yourself now. That should draw some interest.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
Oh good grief he is a piece of work. I know it is not DB, but seriously?
DG, just keep doing things that affirm you, and your life. He’s feeling some loss and it is about time. What he does about it is his to own, not yours to act upon.
I want the recipes too.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
DG, I am so sorry you're going through this. It's bad enough he's moving forward with the D, but the way he's doing it is just making it more painful.
((( )))
Originally Posted By: ~¤DG¤~
He first started out saying he has heard from people that I have been out with men and a woman and he didn't want to believe it was true but my pic on Friday confirmed it.
Hmmm...could there be some projecting going on? I think this must be in the WAS Field Manual somewhere.
I have to agree, I have been reading along a bit DG and it seems he is feeling a sense of loss...finally. I think there is some good to that. I'm so sorry this has been so hard on you, well that holds true for all of us I suppose.
PS... I would love that enchilada recipe as well if you wouldn't mind!
The enchilada recipe is really very simple. I took 4 large chicken breasts and marinated them in chicken taco seasoning in the crock pot for about 5 hours. (My crock pot cooks very fast) When they were done, I shredded the chicken with a fork.
In a sauce pan, I mixed the enchilada sauce according to the directions. The directions said 1lb. of beef or chicken and I had way more than that but it was ok because I don't like super runny food.
Mixed the sauce with the chicken, spooned some in tortilla shells that I warmed on the griddle, then placed in a baking dish and topped with shredded cheese.
Bake at 350 for 15 minutes until cheese is bubbly, and I served it with sour cream and taco sauce. Viola!
Now that I posted the enchilada recipe I'll update a little bit. When H & I were messaging, he told me stopped here to get some things and then of course noticed my dog and was asking questions about her. He commented on how the place looked with the new carpet and the paint and how it looked cozy.
I told him I didn't want him going into the apt anymore without prior arrangements. I'm not worried that he'll take anything, there really isn't anything to take.
He also said he had a question for me but he never asked me.
This is where I get confused. I mentally prepared myself to come home and read the D papers, but they weren't here. He said they were on the table and they aren't. I looked in my bedroom and they aren't there either. Not only that, but he didn't take anything. All of his things are still in the garage. So....what was he doing here??? Why would he say the papers are here if they aren't?
I had my appt with my therapist today, and I broke down like 7 seconds after sitting down in her office. She listened very intensely, and when I was done crying and spilling my guts she asked if I still beat myself up over my actions of the past. I told her no, I don't because I am so far removed from the woman I was almost a year ago that I don't even considerate myself as her anymore. At least that is a positive, right?
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
I took 4 large chicken breasts and marinated them in chicken taco seasoning in the crock pot for about 5 hours.
Yes! Yes! I get to use the crock pot again! 8 days ago was the first time I've ever used the crock pot. Ever. OK - stupid question because if there's a stupid question I'm gonna ask it. You just threw the raw chicken breasts in there with some taco seasoning? How much? Usually when I've marinated something it's immersed in the liquid.
You gotta love knocking him on his heels with the new carpet, paint and the dog!
Originally Posted By: ~¤DG¤~
I told him I didn't want him going into the apt anymore without prior arrangements.
I think this is a VERY appropriate boundary. He doesn't live there anymore. It's not his apartment, it's yours.
I can't think of a good answer on why the papers weren't there.
Originally Posted By: ~¤DG¤~
I told her no, I don't because I am so far removed from the woman I was almost a year ago that I don't even considerate myself as her anymore. At least that is a positive, right?
Yes! ^^^ This is a HUGE positive. If you hadn't gone through all this junk, you would've never have become this woman you are today.