Another crisis.....but H opening up now

[25yearsmlc]

I'm SO pleased you got a lot out of it.

I urge you to reflect more on the post sessions and your reluctance to keep going.

Seems to me that when you pushed further, you gained more--so why not keep at it?

But when I say "you pushed more"

I do NOT mean YOU pushing HIM...i mean the two of you going deeper and getting past the surface assessments.

I did not think we really "needed" the extra time at the post session workshops...but I was wrong.

And in the spirit of not divulging more, that's all I can say. And

"Trust the process". There is a reason for the post sessions...they're no fools.

If you cannot get your h to go OR rather, if he feels he does not want to,

you CAN go on your own.

Also, I don't get the choice you say he has about being happy OR going against his Catholic values.


God does not want us to be miserable. But frankly, it may seem like slogging through a hard M is "work without reward" --

that's just us talking ourselves out of a hardworking but GOOD solid marriage.

We can and should do the work it takes. I hope your h will agree. There is nothing "non-Catholic" about staying married AND being happy.

Take care and once again I urge you to "Trust the process."

So glad you went and here are some

Big hugs (((( )))