Life, Listen to 25. She always gives good advice. Its hard (I should know). How many times has she told me again and again to detach, to just take care of myself. Even when I understood, it took a long time for me to apply.

But now I am starting to see the fruit of my detachment. Its been 16 months post BD for me and at last I am seeing movement.

If he truly did not want you and the kids he would have gone a long time ago. But obviously, your H is a ball of confusion.

As long as we are standing for the M it means we still have hope. Hope is a good thing to have, as long as you do not have EXPECTATIONS.

Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18
Bomb: 6/26/10
EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ???
11/5/11 Retrouvaille
Finally piecing....
Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go