You are part of the 95% if you end up being part of the 95%. You have little control of whether your spouse files,and follows through with the divorce and guess what. NOT a single thing you can do about it. It's not about what you can control in the R or M or what you HOPE to accomplish. Here is the funny thing. You can DB till the cows come home, you can DB better than MWD and STILL not save anything. The major point here is to let the M end up where it ends up and simply worry about yourself. Anything short of that and you are spinning your wheels.
I have a lot of hope for a lot of things one of them is winning the lottery but guess what.....I don't plan my life around it.
