Oh, Jake, I know it hurts. I know it hurts bad. I watched my H's A with a co-worker take place right in front of me (we both work for the same company). You must figure out a way to replace those thoughts for now. You must also find a way to forgive her if you have any hopes of saving this marriage. Meaning, I want you to assume the affair happened. Can you forgive her? If so, what steps do you need to take in order for this to happen. Jake, read carefully... what steps do YOU need to take, not your W.
Is it possible for you to tell us what issues she is having with you? Also, why is it that you are not as "outwardly happy?" What's going on in your own life that is causing this??
