Time for an Introduction...and Thanks

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More journaling...
Received surprise text from H last night. Was letting me know a new video game was coming out at midnight last night. Wanted me to know he was working overnight so he would be able to purchase it for our S and be to our house by 6:00am to play with him. He evidently had told S at some point he could stay home from school and wanted to know if it was OK with me. Had to take a step back. It upset me that he had not talked to me about it first, if S had a test or field trip he would miss out but then I asked myself what difference would this make a month from now, 6 months from now, etc.
I simply texted back that he had already told S he could stay home and now D wanted to as well. Just make sure he called it in to the school.
He replied back "I will, thanks"

Received texts today from my daughter indicating that dad would be buying her an iPhone (today) for christmas if I paid for the data plan. She wanted to know if he had access to my account. I told her no as his cell phone is paid for through his employer and the personal phones she and I have are on my account. She then wanted to know if I gave them my information could they go to the Verizon store. I told her I doubted that and I was busy at work.
Received a call about an hour later from my daughter at the Verizon store wanting to know the last 4 of my social. I gave it to her and she's got a new iPhone.
Ugggg, I'm not sure how I should have handled that. Get my husband on the phone? No, not while they're at the store. He would only say I am trying to "control" him again and this is what she wants for Christmas.

I've just felt frustrated lately being the one to make sure homeworks done, college applications are getting filled out, my son is taking his ADHD medication, dogs are getting fed, etc. and when he feels like swooping in and being the hero he can. He doesn't yell at them or have to discipline them, he only sees S one day a week as it is.
I'm SO glad I have my C appt tonight. It's been about 3 weeks since I've seen her and I can really use her perspective.
I know in the end I'm in the driver's seat. I need to work on better boundaries. I was hoping to use the D process he started to specify what days he has the kids, specific times, etc. He's just dragging his feet in getting the paperwork filled out and then asking for the continuance. Then on the other hand I don't want to push him to that, I don't want the D and don't want to appear eager.

He sees the kids so little as it is, when he wants to do things for them I don't want to be the downer. I just want to be included. That's pretty much what this is about though right, not wanting me included anymore...