What do I do next? Part 2

[luvhurts49]

Ok, so tonight I have a IC meeting--so much has happened since the last time we spoke. I'm going to talk to IC about discovering the OM and how I'm going to deal with it and what I'm going to do afterwards (go dark/dim the best I can).

Every now and then I find myself going along and then BAM!!!, thoughts of my W and OM jump into my head. That really makes the day drag on. I want to get the day over with so I can go home and think in private and not have to worry about holding it together in front on my coworkers and such.

Speaking of which, why is it that you have to go to the court house to apply for a marriage license and the license is upheld by the state (thus essentially making it a contract), when one party does not uphold their end of the contract, how come there isn't any laws that can be used to punish the guilty party? For example, my W had an A, thus she is guilty of infidelity and should be punished by the law.

I think that if there were laws in place for breaking of marriage commitments, that there would be a lot less D in this country and maybe, just maybe, people would actually try working on their M instead of just taking the easy way out and walking away.

Maybe I think about this stuff too much, but it seems to me that things should be a little bit different than they are now. And the same goes for custody and CS--the W shouldn't automatically get the benefit of the doubt and be declared the custodian over 90% of the time just because they gave birth to the kid. If I'm a good dad, let me be a good dad and let me support my kid(s) without having to live in the poorhouse. Just my opinion.