"Going Dark" - 101

[witz10]

Hi I just stumbled upon this topic and I was wondering or get opinions regarding my circumstance. I love my wife and she was the one who said she did not want to be married. She has also stated she is confused on what she wants. She wants me to have more time with our kids. I am out of our condo and living in my mothers basement. I usually pick up my kids Tuesdays and Thursdays and just take them home, dinner bath bed. My wife works late these nights and goes to the gym. I am thinking of going dark and taking them with me to my moms house for a sleep over then up early morning for school and daycare. I think the less contact with my wife the better we might be or it could back fire on me.
She is consulting with a attorney who is also a psychologist and mediator. We are looking to do a separation agreement. I am looking at a personal loan to consolidate my credit into one monthly payment.
I agreed to do couples therapy which she wanted to stop, I am doing my own therapy as well as willing to do couples therapy and 1 or 2 times a year go to couples retreat to work on us. She is just doing her own therapy and a support group. She is a psychologist who also sees couples. Why would she not want to work this out. I saw my issues and have taken care of them with exception to a few.
Confused husband
Witz10

M 37
W 34
S 6mos
Son 6
Daughter 3
Married 8 yrs
together 12yrs
Bad years maybe 3
Math is in our favor to have a happy life together if she wants it.