What do I do next?

[2thepoint]

LH - I was reading some of your recent posts and wanted to add a little something that hopefully you will find useful.

It is clear by your W's actions that you are hurt, deeply. I get that, believe me. But one thing that I have come to discover that has proven to be a tremendous help during this difficult time is to forgive my W for what she has done and is doing to our family.

Forgiveness is not easy to achieve. However, once you are able to forgive, and I mean really forgive, you will found that a tremendous burden has been lifted and everything else becomes so much easier.

Now, you may not be at a point where you are ready to forgive. It may be weeks, months, even years away. But, the sooner you can get to that place of true forgiveness, the sooner your whole attitude in life will shift for the better.

I recently read about a woman by the name of Corrie Ten Boom who happened to have been a holocaust survivor and she made the following statement about forgiveness:

"Forgiveness is to set a prisoner free, and to realize the prisoner was you."

And so as you continue your journey, as pailful as it is, look in your heart and see if there is a place for you to forgive. For if you do and if you truly forgive, it is then perhaps that you will find the strength and hope for your future.

Best wishes!