I haven't retained a L yet - if we do go that route I would rather go through mediation and then have a L review and sign-off on the paperwork.
NO...see the lawyer FIRST AND THEN GO TO MEDIATION..so you enter it knowing your rights in advance
and do not appear to agree to something only to "change your mind" after, when you speak to a L...you'd be surprised at how many mediators do NOT know the law...and how many Ls suggest mediation once you Do know the law...
I'm going to add more gas to the fire - I know another backslide - god I hate myself.
Work situation is tenuous (and W knows this) - we're a small company and have lost a couple of major clients, in addition this whole sitch has not helped my focus at work.
So last night - I asked my W if she would consider holding off visiting the lawyer on the 15th until after the holidays. 1. So that I can focus on getting a new job 2. So that she can start looking to decide what she wants to do long-term re: work. 3. So that we can focus on the holidays and girl's birthdays (both in Dec) - in a state of peace without the additional stress.
She said "She can't do that - she wants to move forward with her life and that this would just delay everything". I said I understood that she wants to move forward and that she should do what she feels is best. End of conversation.
She gave me a peck on the lips before going to bed - I stayed up and watched football.
well thank God for her clarity!
See a L and get your ducks in a row. And re read Telemark's advice. IMO his wife pushed the pedal to the floor so hard that only towards the end did she rethink things...
and your w may be doing the same thing. But YOU will benefit by Telemark's advice b/c you won't keep challenging her choices and forcing her to cement them....Right??
you won't keep pressuring her to back off, which backfires every time, right?????
you'll let her discover things on her own rather than shoving them in her face,
right????
Make sense?
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