Had my divorce care group last night. The lady that reconciled started by saying that she had done the program 2xs. She open it up by saying ' I hated his breath, how he chewed his food, his smell I just hated him". She said her heart was cold as ice. She said that for 4 years they lived in the same house but separated and said it was awful. She filed and he filed but neither could go through with it. She said that during those 4 years they both went to bars and did awfull things? But she found God and soon after her H started attending church a dn chnged and they get along now and their M has been strong for a year. I guy about mid 30s told his story. He said that last Thursday in October W sat him down and told him he would be served and the he was terminated from work. She was his employer also. Gave him 2 weeks pay. Pretty cruel. He does not look well. I told my story and told everyone that I wanted to save my M. The females looked shocked. On of the females who will now be a facilitator said that she has been M 3 xs' That if her 1st H had waited she would have reconciled. That is took her almost 2 years but he remarried and that was the end of that. They told me if that is what I wanted to not date and wait and be patient and work on me. Many statements that they made were so DB. The females also told me to leave so she gets the hint that it is over. The woman that presented said if her H had made attempts to leave that she probably would have chased him down. Something that Sandi2 would said. Not a bad group.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
