I guess my goal in confronting her would to be to let her know that I know about the A--that I would be willing to forgive her if she ended it and came back to our M so we could make things better.
She's not looking for your forgiveness. She's in this A and that's all she's thinking or feeling. It would only make you feel more depressed and rejected.
When the A is over and if she has enough sense left to look at the man you've become, then you'll know when she's seeking your forgiveness.
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I am a mess--a shell of my former self lost in depression, sorrow, and misery and I don't see any escape from feeling this way.
So make a turn-around. Find the man you were before you got M. Work your goals with a purpose in sight! If anyone had a strong motive, you do! Right?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
