Wife just told me doesn't want to be married

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So I did what everyone has been telling me to do, I consulted with an attorney and don't like any of it. My W is consulting with one next week who also happens to be a mediator and psychologist.

I was emailing my W to tell her what I spoke to the attorney about. She answered back and told me when she was going and how we would need to split up our bills. I started to answer back with what bills were mine as well as what we need to split up. Then I receive a text from her by accident. Telling a friedn that I am bothering her and trying to come up with this list over email. LOL. I responded back Sorry to bother you with this. She was the one who wants this not me. Why then do I feel like an ass and that I pissed her off and took another 10 steps back and to the left in our whatever we are.
I REALLY HAVE NO IDEA WHAT TO DO.
I am giving her space and she is upset with me cause she wants to talk without the kids. I told her I was available anytime to talk. Our schedules are full though. D gymnastics monday night she works tues and thurs nights and does not want to talk when she comes in. then weekends either she has the kids or I do. So now what?
What are my options to get this moving in the right direction?
We had my sons birthday party this past weekend and I spoke with her parents and they are trying to figure out why she is doing this. She is running more dyed her hair blonde feeling good about herself. When it somes down to it all I want to do is be able to have a good conversation with her like we did in the past.