Oh, how the tides have changed...

[BklynMom]

What an amazing story. I am so happy for you, your D & your H. I love the idea of a private renewal of vows.

Go easy on him regarding his family. They will always be a part of your lives. YOU can decide how they are part of your lives. Either is pleasant or its not.

Once you except that your SIL will rarely show up to a planned event its easier to not expect her to be there. Just roll with it. Why not? You got your beautiful D and now your H, who cares if SIL shows up.

Good Luck. You are a inspiration