W is angrier after my 180's - time + consistency

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You feeling better DOES matter. Not sure how DBing or "not DBing" it all was. Parts of it seemed to help you both, staying calm and expressing things never said OR heard by the other, before, correct?

Yes, that would be correct.

That's progress in my book.

I completely agree!

Now when she sees that the grass isn't so green on the other side, she can ALSO think that maybe it IS greener on your side, now that you "water it more" b/c you have changed, and you two understand each other better. Seeds may have been planted.

That's a goal, right?

Absolutely!

But in my opinion,

it's rare that a WAW keeps on going, when there are kids involved,

AND

she honestly believes the changes in her spouse are real and lasting.

One of the things I asked her last night was whether or not she believed that people can change, whether she thought I could change, whether she thought she could change. And her answer to all 3 questions was, yes!

Now I just need to demonstrate real, lasting change. And, yes, we are far from the point of no return. And this is why I'm inspired!