Hey, my Texas friend. Thanks for checking in. You know I worry about you if you go too long without posting.
Don't you just love the push, pull, push, pull, push, pull from the WAS? Got whip lash yet? I think you are doing a great job at staying detached best you can. And AWESOME job on working toward your goals...see, she IS noticing the positive changes in you FOR YOU! I know It's tough during those times when you don't hear from her, but my guess is that she's thinking things over. It's best you keep doing what you've been doing and give her the time and space she needs during those times.
I think DB'ing is about finding what works for YOUR situation. There is no one-size-fits-all remedy. So, while I may get smacked for asking you this, are you SURE your wife knows you are open to reconciling? I know you have both expressed that you are not happy with status quo, but in my opinion, sometimes you need to do a little temp check with the spouse when things are going well. Now I'm not suggesting you launch into a full-on R talk, but rather find a subtle way to let her know that while the door isn't wide open, it is unlocked. Think about ways that you can do that without scaring her off. If she gets spooked, she'll back off again (and so can you), but I think she'll be back around. She's still invested on some level with you and is (in my opinion) questioning what she's doing.
My best advice? Keep up the positive changes she is seeing in you; find a way to let her know that ultimately you would like to reconcile (without throwing it in her face) and keep up the good work on detaching and working toward your goals.
I personally think your situation is far from over, NTX.
love & hugs...lc4
PS...if you haven't seen Crazy, Stupid Love yet, get it on PPV.
