I was DB'ing but just discovered an affair

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Anyway, he said him and his W were talking about my sitch this weekend and they both think based on what's happened lately that my wife realizes she has made a mistake and is too proud to come crawling back,.....

Hey there, just thought I'd add some perspective if you don't mind.

Your statement about your W being "too proud to come crawling back" struck me as something worthy of further exploration. It would appear to me that if that is indeed what your W would feel if she decided to come back, then there is still some work to do on your part.

Whatever issues you two have had and need to address cannot get in the way of your W coming home. She has to feel like there is a welcome mat waiting for her and that can only be achieved with your continued focus on improving you.

Once she is comfortable and confident in your changes, it makes the road home for her so much easier. Instead of crawling, she'll be walking. And isn't that a much better picture to have?

Wishing you the best!