I have been speaking to one of my friends about this whole situation. She is a christian and is encouraging me to fight for my marriage. She brought up a few points that I had not thought of. She said that right now H is in this supper defensive position and actively looks for reasons to valadte the reasons why he left me. She said I immasculated him and made him feel like a faliure as a husband and a father. That my "complaining" and "pointing out" things that he should just know (like the diaper bag) push him away. That he needs to be "built up" by me. He needs t think that I think he's not a bad guy and he's a good father. She said to start treating him like he was a good H and like he is the best dad in the world and maybe he will live up to that. The day after the big incident, he called to let me know that he could not refi. our home loan 4 a year out of my name and into his alone. I was still upset about the day before and tol him he was screwing me and I was upset. To his credit he didnt explode. He just said it was out of his hands which in all honesty it was. After some coaxing from my gf I sent him a text asking him to call me. When he did I told him that i had thought about hat he said; realised that he had done all he could, and appologized for my reactions. .... You could hear his smile through the phone. He was so pleased I apologized to him. We left the conversation with him feeling better about talking to me. That was the goal i guess. Baby steps right?
