Are there any success stories here?

[NTX_Dad]

NTX... You've owned up to your own issues and agreed to work on them. That is more than most people ever do. You will mess up from time to time because you're human. But quite frankly, if your W isn't willing to give you that much slack it was never going to work in the first place.

The other side of the coin is... you are working hard on you. If she can't see that and appreciate it, well, then maybe at some point you are better off without her and with someone who will appreciate it. This is totally me projecting my own feelings onto your sitch, but consider it at least. Just don't shoulder all the blame yourself.

Thanks workinghardguy!

What's ironic is that I hear what you are saying, and *I* just gave that advice to someone else here over the weekend. This young man's girlfriend dumped him and he fixed his mistakes but she won't talk to him at all. I told him that she didn't deserve him if she can't see past that.

And really that's where I am at. My stbx even told me about a week ago that she was mad that I am fixing my issues and getting a life because she was begging me to do it for years. I told her I was sorry she felt that way but that I am doing it all for myself. So she has noticed... maybe sometime soon she will start believing it.