I am sorry you are going through this. I think you are doing a great job. There is no rhyme or reason to this stuff but you are keeping your head above water. I am well into the 4th year of this stuff. Handling things cool and calmly is what counts even though you would love to rip her apart. You have to find that peace within to survive, it most certainly will not come from her. Know that you are not alone in this journey.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11