Sorry you find yourself here, GAL Man, but the people here will help you transform your own life if you work really hard and listen to the advice. Cadet will give you a ton of resources to read, which is a good place to start.
These are all dated October--which is SOOOO long ago already and it won't make much difference for anyone to read through and interpret anything about these exchanges now.
Can you sum up what your rel. with your W is now? More importantly, what are you doing to GAL, since that's what your screen name is and your thread is titled "Time to move forward"? We can help more if we know the current sitch, your boundaries with her (or lack of them), etc.
When you're dealing with a really contentious situation, the best you can do is detach from it as much as possible and just work on what's in your control, which is yourself.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
