Time to move forward

[GAL Man]

October 7

Text from W

As per our verbal agreement about changing days I have been asked to go to the xxxx over the weekend of sat xxxx, I would drop kids off sat morning of the xxxx so I would swap for a day the following week pls let me know as need to inform work thanks

I didn’t respond, thought I would leave it a while, as I was shocked by her saying " as per our agreement" when she has gone back on EVERYTHING she verbally agreed, and agreed IN WRITING FFS

Then get a VERY lengthy email from W stating exactly what she wants in a settlement. Money, kids 50/50, ALL the Child benefit (even though she is committing benefit fraud by still claiming it when she is not entitled to it and I should be having it) That neither of us should file a CSA (child maintenance) claim plus some other bits. Ohh, and that she was sending a copy of this email to her solicitor.

I responded saying a didn’t agree to that, and detailed some areas.

W replied in detail, having a go as well.

I think this is where I hit MY rock bottom, and started to REALLY stand up for myself, but keeping with my beliefs and morals of what is right and wrong. I realised that W is not a nice person, and has been this way for the past 2 years, the selfishness, blaming, its all about me…..

I loved her (and still do) but I tolerated the intolerable for too long (like the shouting at me to f off after drinking and in front of friends, on more than one occasion) No more Mr Nice guy, yep, had some of that.

I do not want to be with W and the person she has become, why do I say this now, well this was why……….

In W’s email she pointed out that we were not M when the kids were born. Before 2003 if parents were not married at the time of birth the father DID NOT AUTOMATICALLY GET PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY over their own child……… The law in England and Wales changed in 2003 to rectify this if the father is named on the birth certificate

W pointed me to the government website where it clearly states this, and was basically saying I have no say over the responsibility of my own children, and that as the children’s mother she automatically takes the parental responsibility, how F***** low is that………… Also stating this so SHE could get the child benefit and then be able to claim maintenance further down the road

To say I was pooping myself would be an understatement, so straight on the phone to my solicitor………..who told me that as we got married I AUTOMATICALLY GOT PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITY.

Now the response I draft up was long, and included this, and that W should stop relying on the internet for information, get seek proper advice. But decided not to send anything for at least 24hrs