TM, we seem to be arriving at similar points of this trail. I know the emotions I’ve felt; I imagine yours have been similar along with many of the other LBS here.
Know that in my opinion you have acted with Integrity and Honor, and that is important for while we are not likely to regret the emotions felt; unless we are totally self absorbed we will regret actions taken outside of Integrity and Honor.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
Telemark, I think it's sickening what you can find on line. It's way too easy to get a D. All you need is a whimsical notion a web browser.
I am glad you are keeping youself busy and doing some positive things.
You have handled youself like a true gentleman throughout this. It's very clear you have changed from when you first started this relationship but unfortunately your W has not done likewise.
Man, I know that's going to be tough going through those Christmas decorations.
I went bowling the other weekend for the first time and my highest score was 46. I was awful.
DG, was this with or without bumpers? If without, you may want to consider bumpers! Sorry...I couldn't resist. Hopefully, I am laughing with you. I hope you had fun!
Telemark - I'd have to say those scores are in line with my abilities. I'd have to say it's pretty darn good for coming back after a long layoff.
I could have thrown gutter balls all night and still would have had a good time. It was with several other families from church; I think they have unofficially adopted me.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
Telemark, Wanted to chime in with my agreement that you have comported yourself like a true gentleman throughout this whole ordeal. You have kept your head "when all about you were losing theirs". In the long run, this is what matters. Congratulations, you have done your best, no man can ask more.
Will be heading up to wellsboro this weekend for some hiking though the canyon, hoping the weather will hold up, Enjoy the day!
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
Sidebar: I have a friend in the banking industry who decided to run a little background check on my W's OM and new roomie. In addition to living rent-free, along with his mother, with my W (she told me he is going to cooking/chef school and is not going to look for a job), letting her send him several hundred dollars this past summer and paying for his move cross-country in September, he filed for personal bankruptcy a few years ago.
I hate the fact that he is such an upgrade...
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
Yes, this is a disturbingly common pattern. It's rare that I have ever seen a WAS truly upgrade. There's exceptions of course, e.g. walking away from an abusive relationship. I wonder what it says about your W's self-esteem? It's really sad when I think about it.
If without, you may want to consider bumpers!