What do I do next?

[luvhurts49]

Thanks Grace and TM, your words mean a lot, but it is so hard right now.

@Grace: The only family I talk to about this is my mom and dad and the only friends I talk to are 2 people that have gone through something similar and I trust them completely.

I keep thinking that should have seen it coming--my W working with this guy all day, then coming home and talking to me about this guy and the conversations that they had--I should have seen it coming, but was too blind by my own love for my W. I thought that she was just disclosing facts so I wouldn't think anything was going on and maybe she was, but I don't know.

I'm still stuck with whether to confront her about the A or not. I think that she has been lying to her dad (where she lives right now) and some of her close friends because she knows that they probably wouldn't support her in this decision. I guess my goal in confronting her would to be to let her know that I know about the A--that I would be willing to forgive her if she ended it and came back to our M so we could make things better.

I'm confused and I really don't know what to do. This has been weighing on me since I found out about the OM. I don't know how to deal with this--I'm in so much pain. What do I do?