Time to move forward

[GAL Man]

Right, I will start right after my last post on the newcomers board, as I have realised W is MLC big time!

October 4 – My birthday (not the best bit of db, but I was annoyed on my birthday!!!)

Actually, a little bit of background first

26 August I received a few emails from W, including this statement "all I want is the kids 50% of the time and the financial situation to be sorted"

W’s first solicitor’s letter, received on Friday 26th August, stated I was not to speak to her directly, to only go through them. It also said that W wanted things to go as quickly as possible. From that point on W had requested on 6 occasions in text messages, 4 times in email and on numerous occasions verbally, that she wished to meet in person to discuss, which I had refused. I had also stated to her " at this time I have no inclination of speaking to you or seeing you", and this IMHO is waht the next few pages are about, as one of her last text was, well u wont speak to me! (What she expect after everything, OM, lies, games and more so the kids)

So I commenced gathering the financial information so we could fully understand our financial position. I agreed to meet on 7th September, we discussed thoroughly the financial aspects and I put a proposal to W, which she accepted in 2 subsequent emails on 8th September, then again in 2 emails on 9th September, one of which she stated "I will inform my solicitors of what we have agreed".

On October 4, I received a solicitors letter from W which contained “its appears to us that you client does seem to be rushing matters and getting our client to reach an agreement regarding all issues. Can we please ask you therefore to ask your client not to place our client under such pressure as this is causing great anxiety.

The letter also stated that W didn’t agree to the financial proposal and wants full disclosure, even though she agreed it!!!!
WTF

These are the text from October 4 (Sorry, I am detailing these as I will refer to them later, when things get really crazy)

These were the first coms in a week, after the CSA text and discussion previously mentioned.

W – (at 7.19am!) Happy birthday, hope you have a good one ;-)

M – (3hrs later) thanks for the solicitors letter on my birthday, nice touch, and u said u didn’t want to go through them!!!!!

W – U were looking for a letter, but still don’t want to go through solicitors, pls don’t start on me today my mum has been in a car accident

M – U said in your letter I’m rushing things WTH. I feel u have backed me into a corner I didn’t want to go in

M – Hope ur mum is OK, please pass on my best wishes

M – I said last wed, how much lower could u go, well there is my answer, on my birthday

W – Just had a call from the CSA and u will get a letter stating the case is closed, the only people this situation is gonna make happy is the solicitors!!!! Can we not sort this out ourselves

W – Not my fault blam RM

M – Ohh dear, more lies. I have just got off the phone to CSA and they said u only called today, but I have given them the full picture. When you can show me that you can be loyal, truthful and trustworthy, like friends should be, then I will consider being your friend. (this was after the last time I met W when she said she wanted to be friends)

W – They called after I wrote to them!!!! And thank you for that I will let you know ur sending her best wishes

M – You said in 6, yes SIX text messages on Wednesday (have a look) that u had spoken to the CSA and cancelled the claim, now u are saying u wrote to them…….there u go…….

M – Yes, please pass on my concerns to your mum, and that I’m thinking about her

M – Sort what out ourselves? As I have said before, the finances are sorted (unless u are going back on ur word again!)kids scheduling sorted, and u are now filing the Div petition.
Again, I and the kids will be happy to go to mediation, NOT A PROBLEM
And why are u saying I am rushing things, I told u right at the beginning this was not what I wanted, but I wouldn’t stand in your way. I love u enough to let u go. (This is only the 2nd time in 6 months I have said the L word, and both times it was in this context, in didn’t text that, I was just pointing it out to you BITS)

M – Hows ur Mum

W – At the hospital now will let u know what happens

M – Please, as soon as u know anything let me know. If u want to talk about it, u know where I am

W – Thank u

M – Goes without saying W. This may be a low day but ur mum is what matters right now. Take care of in-laws, and you

W – Hi mum is back home. Ive told mum u were thinking of her and she said thanks

M – That’s good to hear

W – So are we going to sort this out together

M – What do u want to sort out